[thelist] sending mail to someone youve never met before

Christopher Mahan chris_mahan at yahoo.com
Fri Oct 1 11:27:47 CDT 2004

--- Alex Beston <alex at deltatraffic.co.uk> wrote:

> yes i do and that counter example was funny! it gets the point
> across 
> nicely!

Thanks, I tried.
> so in todays age, people who have a site and they leave their mail,
> they 
> want comments about their site. ...?
> is this the only way to build a rapport? or is it the best way?

You ever been in a bar? (pub etc)

If you want to cozy up to the lonely blonde, you've got to go
introduce yourself, sit next to her, buy her a drink, or cover the
tab for the current one. Then you've got to gaze into her eyes while
she speaks and tells you what a creep her ex is. (you don't really
care, you just have to look fascinated). Also, you've got to make her
feel like she's the only person in the room. Then, she warms up to
you, and starts to like you, because, let's face it, you've been
working out and that Sean Austin look is just cute as can be.
Finally, when she's getting antsy, you offer to drive her somewhere
where the two of you can, hum, share some more personal time.

The point is: Seduce, focus, and proceed.

The thing not to do is go from girl to girl, trying to pitch your
wares with a "hey babe, how you doin'" like Joey on Friends.

Likewise on the internet, via email, you want to say and act and
emote like you really, really care about the person behind the site.
But like the blonde at the bar, she'll spot fake faster than you can
say "hi". So you want to engage in a dialog, and be disarmingly
honest, straightforward, and clear.

You also don't want to be hitting 60 people like that at the same
time. Because developing relationships on the internet is like making
friends in bars: If you manage one per day, you're doing fine.

Chris Mahan
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chris_mahan at yahoo.com
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